http://www.tomlinde.com/faq/first-create-a-listener-then-transmit-the-message/ Making things right in thought, emotion, relationships and health. Fri, 03 Feb 2012 21:44:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.tomlinde.com/faq/first-create-a-listener-then-transmit-the-message/comment-page-1/#comment-6165 janice Sun, 11 Dec 2011 23:21:50 +0000 http://www.tomlinde.com/faq/?p=108#comment-6165 My husband is also an alchoholic. i have stuck by his side for years and doene my untmost best to gewt him to open up when he was in depresion. Eventually he broke down and quoted that he was lost and admitted how he actually felt. I supported him when we went to dr's as well as when he went ot support meetings but none of this helped him at all. i love my husband very much as i'm sure he does me. But he has now forgot to show me how much and how to appreciate me. i made a plan which the dr said if he sticks to it he wil lahve no problem cuttingdown and getting our life back on track. So as he agreed to do this yet again i gave him another chance as was about to leave him last month. I now feel i have to leave him as the love and affection has stil lnot happened and he is gradually going back to his old drinking habits of drinking wine all day, no matter what size. He is not a violent man and never has been only when he used to get very drunk and that was with his mouth not physical! I hae already told him on several occaions that i will leave if he goes back to way he was.he can afford to buy 3 bottle of wine for £10 but cannot afford to gi ve his wife £5 that makes me feel undervalued. Plus i pay for most of coming and goings apart from rent/ct/phone bill. My biggest problem is how do i leave him?? My husband is also an alchoholic. i have stuck by his side for years and doene my untmost best to gewt him to open up when he was in depresion.
Eventually he broke down and quoted that he was lost and admitted how he actually felt. I supported him when we went to dr’s as well as when he went ot support meetings but none of this helped him at all.
i love my husband very much as i’m sure he does me. But he has now forgot to show me how much and how to appreciate me.
i made a plan which the dr said if he sticks to it he wil lahve no problem cuttingdown and getting our life back on track.
So as he agreed to do this yet again i gave him another chance as was about to leave him last month. I now feel i have to leave him as the love and affection has stil lnot happened and he is gradually going back to his old drinking habits of drinking wine all day, no matter what size.
He is not a violent man and never has been only when he used to get very drunk and that was with his mouth not physical! I hae already told him on several occaions that i will leave if he goes back to way he was.he can afford to buy 3 bottle of wine for £10 but cannot afford to gi ve his wife £5 that makes me feel undervalued. Plus i pay for most of coming and goings apart from rent/ct/phone bill.
My biggest problem is how do i leave him??

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